BRING YOU UP TO DATE

SUFFERING CAN MAKE YOU BETTER OR IT CAN MAKE YOU BITTER

Monday I posted an uplifting exercise about thankfulness in my three Myositis support groups.  The thing is. . . I needed those exercises myself.  So, here they are…

Thankfulness is a transforming attitude. Paul opens the letter thankfulness for their faith. This puts it on a positive note before he begins to express some negative things about the Roman Church. Paul follows this pattern in many of his letters. It’s a good pattern for us to follow. Always start on a positive note when correction is necessary. Follow this pattern in all your relationships, husband, children, friends, new acquaintances, etc.

Thankfulness is embracing. It’s an attitude that’s as good as a hug. It fills us with joy. Often I have talked with people who say they can’t find anything to be thankful for. Here’s a very quick solution to that problem.

Exercise 1)
Sit in a comfortable chair. Close your eyes. Breathe deeply ten times. Open your eyes and express thankfulness for what you see in the room.
Say “I am thankful for my feet.”. Ask “Why am I thankful for my feet?”. “Because I can walk. I do not have pain in my feet.” Continue this way for as long as you wish, naming other things that you see. Fifteen minutes is a good goal. You might want to journal your exercise in thankfulness.

Thankfulness brings us closer to each other. Paul prays for them intensely. Thankfulness gives him a heart of joy and yearning to see them despite their short comings.

Thankfulness is embracing. It’s an attitude that’s as good as a hug. It fills us with joy. Often I have talked with people who say they can’t find anything to be thankful for. Here’s a very quick solution to that problem.

Exercise 1)
Sit in a comfortable chair. Close your eyes. Breathe deeply ten times. Open your eyes and express thankfulness for what you see in the room.
Say “I am thankful for my feet.”. Ask “Why am I thankful for my feet?”. “Because I can walk. I do not have pain in my feet.” Continue this way for as long as you wish, naming other things that you see. Fifteen minutes is a good goal. You might want to journal your exercise in thankfulness.

Thankfulness brings us closer to each other. Paul prays for them intensely. Thankfulness gives him a heart of joy and yearning to see them despite their short comings.

Thankfulness is embracing. It’s an attitude that’s as good as a hug. It fills us with joy. Often I have talked with people who say they can’t find anything to be thankful for. Here’s a very quick solution to that problem.

Exercise 2:
Sit quietly in your comfortable chair and breathe deeply as before. This time start naming people you are thankful for. Include people who have disappointed you as well as those who haven’t. Examine your mood, attitude, and emotions during this exercise. Don’t judge yourself. Just objectively look at them.

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Yesterday I posted this in all three groups.  It tells the tale of what I’ve been going through for over the last two weeks.

“I am going to share what’s been happening in my life for actually over the past two weeks. Especially after yesterday’s post about positive thinking and thankfulness. Over two weeks ago I had eyelid lift surgery on my left eye. A rare, rare occurrence happened. My ophthalmologist looked at me and said, I have never had this happen before in all my years. A suture had come loose. He gave me a very painful shot in the eyelid so he could put in a double suture to fix it. The double suture has rubbed an ulcer in the top of my eye ball. These last two weeks of been an exercise in level 8 pain. There’s not much they can do. I have been taking codeine every four hours as needed. At night he gave me some aspirin drops. They work well. But I can only take them at bedtrime. I am going to the pain clinic in a few minutes. Please pray for me and for wisdom for the doctor as to how to handle this level of pain for the next five weeks. Yes it will take that long for the sutures to finally disolve. I needed to do the thankfulness exercises myself as well as focus on the good things.”

My pain Doctor (at the pain clinic) approved my taking two codeine every four hours as needed.  Of course this just for this month until the sutures disolve. It is extremely difficult to think, let alone do the exercises above in that level of pain.  The best I could do was a breathing exercise in the doctors office.  Chris interpreted for me.

Today is much better. I’ve put myself on a schedule so I can track how much I’m taking each day. God is Sooo good!  THese type of situations usually drive me to concentrated prayer. Two days ago Chrisvand I prayed Joel 2:13ff in “Our Daily Bread” online.  We do this together every day.  It was a very strong passage about tearing our hearts in prayer for the nation of Israel.  We, of course turned toward America at this time of crisis election.

Yet how can this be a transforming experience?  This is why making spiritual exercises a daily part of your life is critically important. I made the decision to do the “Thankfulness Exercises” because I desperately needed to escape the pain.  Then I made the decision to do the breathing practice I use for meditation for the same reason. We were all very frustrated with the situation.  I have chosen anger, resentment, and bitterness in the past.  Someone, I forgot who, said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.”  That decision will bring transformation.  Indeed it it will!  But it is destruction for ourselves and those around us.

Only with the filling of the Holy Spirit of Jesus can we hope to make the right choice in a terribly difficult time.  And, we must make it a moment by moment decision followed by daily spiritual exercises, time with Jesus, Bible reading, prayer, giving (of ourselves, our money, time and service, and reading uplifting books of various kinds). Even then, it can be difficult.  We also need support from others.  My wonderful husband is an incredible example of loving, thoughtful, considerate  support.  My support groups are great for venting, information, understanding of my disease, and a place where I, too, can help others. Helping other gets me out of thinking about myself  and falling into self-pity.

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